It’s Temporary

I’ve heard about not being attached to outcomes. But how about this sensible statement I came across last week: It doesn’t make sense to get upset or frustrated or angry if the current situation doesn’t match what I expected, because it’s going to change anyway.

The delta between what is really happening and what I expected would happen, or what I hoped would happen, or what I believe could or should be happening, can be small or large. If the delta is small, then I’m happy or content – things are going the way I want. But if it’s large, I find myself imagining how much BETTER this could be if only things were going differently. I know, I know! This robs me of actually experiencing what is here and now, but it’s so hard to let go (that has been my experience).

But what if it’s all going to change anyway? Doesn’t matter if it’s going the way I wanted, or if it’s not. This circumstance is temporary and it’s going to shift. Just wait a little while and stuff will be different.

With that perspective I’m finding it easier to be content with what is. Doesn’t mean I don’t make decisions to move this direction or that, following a path that I think fuels my passions or serves my mission. But it does mean that right now, tonight, even though my kids are out with their friends and my plans fell through so I’m alone for the evening, I don’t need to feel frustrated or lonely. It’s just the circumstance right now. It’s temporary and it’s going to change.

Overthinking

Been pondering the role perception plays on my life. Problems rarely turn out to be as big as I think they are. Or said differently, problems turn out to be exactly as big as I think they are.

So often my brain takes a circumstance – like a problem at work – and starts to turn it over and over, looking at it every different way, drawing from past experience and trying to draw conclusions. Attempting to anticipate how every other person will react if I choose to take one action or another.

Overthinking.

Perceptions are the problem. Perceptions are this layer of interpretation, created by my brain, based on the collective experiences of my life, and put forth as “information”. They may be helpful or they may not, but the insight here is they are not real. Perceptions are not part of the current problem or situation. So they must be taken with a grain of salt. Depending on the situation and my personal experiences, maybe a VERY BIG grain of salt — to the point that maybe those perceptions/thoughts are not really helpful at all. Realize these thoughts created by my conditioned mind could actually be getting in the way; they could be making the situation seem bigger or worse than it actually is. And this is happening exactly at the moment when it would be far better to focus on what is immediately in front of me.

Much better to:
1) Recognize those thoughts for what they are – just a product of my mind which has been conditioned by the particular experiences of my life.
2) Realize my thoughts might be wreaking havoc making this problem seem bigger than it is.
3) Understand that I have the power to choose to let those thoughts go.

The 5-Hour Rule

This article, called the 5-Hour Rule, makes a fascinating assertion: that the world is shifting so fast and physical products and services are being demonetized so rapidly that the best investment to make today – in fact the currency of tomorrow – is knowledge. Our ability to learn will be what differentiates the most successful people from the less successful ones. People who identify skills needed for future jobs and quickly learn them are poised to win.
“We need to stop thinking that we only acquire knowledge from 5 to 22 years old, and that then we can get a job and mentally coast through the rest of our lives if we work hard. To survive and thrive in this new era, we must constantly learn.”
This is worth the read.

The Gift of Acabar

The Gift of Acabar is a book by Og Mandino published in 1978. It’s a very short book, only 114 pages and a fast read.  Yesterday I re-read it on the plane. Here are my notes and takeaways.


Every human has one very special power: the power of choice.
Although there have been millions of people, through the centuries, who have used their power wisely, the majority choose to spend so much of their precious allotment of life feeling sorry for themselves.
We all fall victim to this mindset, but it does not serve us. If you wish to change, you must choose to do the work to change. Change comes from within.
Along with the power of choice there is another very special gift: the spark of life. With this gift comes an opportunity – another choice – to apply your own special talents, whatever they may be, to leave this world a better place than you found it. This is the true meaning of life. Billions of humans have failed in this and wasted their lives. And this is our choice that we make on a daily basis – to fulfill our destiny or waste our lives. The only thing we have to do to fulfill our destiny is use the talent the universe gave us to make this a better world.
That’s it. Simple. Use the gifts you have to bring more light into the world. It doesn’t have to be a big light, you don’t have to be famous or wealthy or a genius. All that is asked is that you use whatever gifts you have to the best of your ability. If your skill is with a hammer, build! If you have a knack with a hoe, plant! If you are happy on the water, fish! If a pen does your bidding, write!
Adversity is not a curse – it is a blessing. To struggle is the only certain way for anyone to achieve their full potential. The brightest stars are those who have been tested in the fires of tribulation.
We live in a world that is filled with people making excuses for their failure because it is always easier to quit than to keep trying. Do not walk that path of despair.
Instead, choose to fulfill your destiny: use your gifts persistently, never stop trying, keep pushing forward whatever the adversity, and work to make the world a better place.


This reading sparked a follow-up thought in me:
When I see people – especially kids – plugged into their phones and screens, I am saddened because they are not fulfilling their true potential, they are not making the world a better place; instead they are wasting their lives; wasting their spark. I am not immune to this, I do the same thing to unplug and unwind and sometimes I fall into the trap and lose my way. When we can’t think of anything else to do, when we lose track of our purpose, then we have squandered our greatest gift – the spark of life.

Last Post For A While

This will be my last post for a while. This blog has always been an experiment for me – what does it do to my brain to capture a new idea every single day? Can I say one thing every day I’m willing to stand behind? I wanted to find out the effect that could have.

My original thought was to continue this until October, for one year. However, through this experience I’ve realized the mental bandwidth used Continue reading “Last Post For A While”