I’ve heard about not being attached to outcomes. But how about this sensible statement I came across last week: It doesn’t make sense to get upset or frustrated or angry if the current situation doesn’t match what I expected, because it’s going to change anyway.
The delta between what is really happening and what I expected would happen, or what I hoped would happen, or what I believe could or should be happening, can be small or large. If the delta is small, then I’m happy or content – things are going the way I want. But if it’s large, I find myself imagining how much BETTER this could be if only things were going differently. I know, I know! This robs me of actually experiencing what is here and now, but it’s so hard to let go (that has been my experience).
But what if it’s all going to change anyway? Doesn’t matter if it’s going the way I wanted, or if it’s not. This circumstance is temporary and it’s going to shift. Just wait a little while and stuff will be different.
With that perspective I’m finding it easier to be content with what is. Doesn’t mean I don’t make decisions to move this direction or that, following a path that I think fuels my passions or serves my mission. But it does mean that right now, tonight, even though my kids are out with their friends and my plans fell through so I’m alone for the evening, I don’t need to feel frustrated or lonely. It’s just the circumstance right now. It’s temporary and it’s going to change.