Some people – men and women alike – get into long-term committed relationships, have a family, and spend their lives managing day-to-day logistics in a home life that is packed with activities not always of their own choosing. These people may find themselves giving up personal freedoms in hundreds of ways for the benefit of their partner or children. Frustrated, they may look at the lives of others who have not made such commitments, who can leave for the weekend, any weekend, and make their way through life completely on their own terms. Surely, those people must be happier!
Other people avoid the long-term committed relationship and move from one short-term relationship to the next. Reluctant to concede personal freedoms or wary of becoming too vulnerable, these men and women stay within themselves and hold their feelings close to the vest. They may look at the lives of others who have a family and marvel from the outside at what richness there must be to be surrounded with energy and emotion by others who depend upon them. Perhaps even the conflict that is a normal part of day-to-day family life may appear desirable to the person who does not have it.
On one hand, frustration.
On the other, loneliness.
Let both be content. Let both appreciate the joys of their friendships and experiences. And let them know that neither one nor the other is happier.
We are all just people on our journey. We make decisions for ourselves based on our experiences and needs. There is no right or wrong choice, there is only change and movement, and being open to the experience that is happening to us right now.